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20140622-153922-56362590.jpgYou know what I’m talking about. Your friends post constantly, like clockwork, each and every Sunday night about it. The old “back to reality” in the morning. Mine was so bad when four years ago when I worked as a software sales manager that it started right when I left the office on Friday night; because I knew, like clockwork, as sure as the sky was blue, that the Monday morning alarm clock would be going off again…signaling the beginning of a long, stressful work week.

If you love your job these days, you’re lucky. Most these days aren’t in your position. A lot of people are working at jobs that they are clearly overqualified for and underpaid. A ton more actually love their job but despise the fact that they are financially shackled to it. Meaning…if disaster were to strike, if tragedy were to present themselves, they’d have no other way to support themselves and their family. Because they know of no other way to do that, they continue on doing the only thing they know.

That’s exactly where I was four years ago this month. June of 2010 was when the decline of my job and the increase of the unhappiness set in. I began questioning if my hard work and the stress was worth it. Sure, I made money, but more time and effort were demanded of me in return for less and less money. This is when I had my first thoughts of leaving. But because I knew of no other way…I stayed.

What happens when we love our jobs but begin experiencing this type of resentment for it is because we realize that we’d rather be doing something ELSE with our TIME. Whether it be spending more time with our family, spending time on vacation, seeing the world, giving back more to the community, whatever our dreams may be….we’d rather be doing THAT than exchanging time in our life for dollars in our wallet. But because we stay so busy with our JOBS, we hardly have any time to devote to our DREAMS.

I believe that God out dreams in our heart not to torment us, but for us to have at least one bit of intrinsic motivation to go for them. For us to have some type of gauge to let us know – and that gauge most often shows us through depression, unhappiness, uneasiness, stress – that what we’re doing isn’t bringing us any closer to what we want.

How would it feel for you to not have to wake up to an alarm each Monday morning? To still be able to provide whole-heartedly for your family, not just financially, but with the most important currency there is, TIME? To be able to serve others, something that most of us are conditioned not to do because we’re so worried about taking care of ourselves first?

Whatever it is you want to do, take a step towards it. Don’t wait. Take steps TODAY. Like Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” MLK once said, “Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.”

If you are currently looking and are open to a concept that will get you not only in the right direction, but to your destination, click on the “Work With Rich” tab above.

20140612-161228-58348283.jpg. Self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s the concept in which one has either a positive or negative expectation about circumstances, events, or other people and that the very expectation one has causes the exact behavior that allows those expectations to be fulfilled.

In the service industry, self-fulfilling prophecies are everywhere…most commonly, a server who has waited on a certain customer before and had been tipped badly, so the next time they come in, they tell the server who is waiting on them that they’re bad tippers, and voila! That server doesn’t give them good service and they don’t get a good tip!

Don’t pay attention to these claims! I had this happen time and time again, and each time I did, my thought process was, “They’re not bad tippers, they just tipped YOU badly” and I’ll show that server my 20-30% tip after the customer received great, genuine service. People will PAY for VALUE received.

What self-fulfilling prophecy are you telling yourself ABOUT yourself? And most importantly…listening to about yourself??? Most get “stuck” because they listen to their own voices of the past, and those voices continually reinforce this prophecy that things will never be better, so why even try?
Decide that in order for you to realize value, you need to value yourself, and that you need to PROVIDE value TO yourself. Read good books, not the fad fiction of today. Listen to audios. Read the Bible. Exercise. Take time out of the day for you. Meditate. Pamper yourself with a professional massage. A pedicure. Take action today towards something you want. The big thing you want tomorrow can be reduced to a small action that can be done today. See yourself TIPPING you abundantly. What kind of service would you provide yourself if you KNEW you would receive a good tip from yourself?

Paying bills is fun, right?

Growing up on Saint Paul, MN’s West Side, having went to a high school where 25% of the people who I started the ninth grade with didn’t graduate with me four years later, it’s easy to get into a mindset of being fearful of being successful. We are taught inadvertently by our environment to look at those who are “well-to-do” or “rich” in a negative light. This is evidenced by sayings that we all heard growing up such as “Filthy Rich” and the like.

Let’s have a discussion here. I’m a very logical guy, so I’m going to follow a very logical format. We all grow up wanting to live the lavish lifestyle, dreaming of never having to work, dreams of relaxing on the beach without a care in the world, wishing all the bills would just pay themselves and finally getting to shed that stress and anxiety each time the 1st of the month comes and the rent or mortgage was due, correct?

So what do we do? We look at people that have what we want – everything I’ve mentioned in the above paragraph – and we say they are lucky, or maybe we are even jealous that they don’t have to endure the stresses that we do today. We THINK that everything they have in their life has been handed to them and they don’t know how it is to walk even a block in our shoes. We curse those who have more than us.

Is it their fault? No. There is a old Polynesian saying that says, “Bless that which you want.” How can you get the things you want out of life if you constantly curse those which have what you want? If you think that the people that have what you want are merely “lucky”, then you must think that someday this “luck” will happen to you, right? Wrong. It won’t! By dismissing those who have what you want, you are associating negative thoughts to the things that you SAY you want to most. Notice my choice of words. Just because you say you want something, doesn’t make it true. It’s what you think, it’s how you view them, it’s what you believe. If you think rich people are the devil, you are constantly pushing away any possibility for you to be financially free. Chances are that you will spend your life constantly struggling to pay the bills and will have hardly any cash on reserve for emergencies. Oh, the alternator went out in your car? Your water heater went out in your house? These things we have hardly any control of, in fact, we KNOW they aren’t built to last but those with a poverty mindset will associate these events that we know will happen at one point in time or another as “oh, poor me” or “the worst things always happen to me”.

If you want a life free of stress, anxiety, constant struggle, try changing your financial mindset. In the following video of Dr. Walter Sims, he explains that “money is not the root of all evil, only the LOVE of money is.”