Bi-Polarism Vs. “Crazy Eights”

Posted: November 7, 2011 in Uncategorized
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In today’s world, mental illness has skyrocketed for a number of reasons. I believe one is valid, and the other may or not be. The one that I believe is valid is because in an economy like the one we are currently in, people are working harder for a dollar that is worth less to put food on the table and a roof over their head. As a result, stress is higher not only in the workplace, but in the relationship at home. People are desperately trying to find a balance between home and work, and most of the time, it is unsuccessful. The second reason, I believe anyway, is that due to the overwhelming number of people who seek attention from medical experts for their stress, depression, anxiety – as acute as it may be – unfortunately do not receive the individualized attention to make an accurate assessment and diagnosis and get grouped into a much larger subset of people needing much more help. With these people, one session with a therapist could be the session to get to the root of the problem but unfortunately they get prescribed an anti-depressant that takes weeks to take effect.

I think it’s no secret by now that in the summer and early fall of 2010, I was severely depressed. It was to the point that I no longer had the confidence in myself to be effective at my job being an account executive, but also being a sales manager that needs to guide my sales staff to be effective as THEY can be. It also affected my relationship at home because, working longer hours in the office to make up for my ineffectiveness meant less time at home, therefore raising the stress level at home. It was like a vicious cycle of trying to compensate and find balance. Two months after finally walking away from my job and ending my relationship I fell into a deeper hole in which I did come out of, but what I did not know is that I would fall into one more vicious cycle that sometimes unfortunately gets described as mania, one end of the spectrum as we have all gotten to come to know as bi-polarism.

When I snapped out of my depression, it was great to be ALIVE. To finally realizing for myself and knowing that everything would be ok, that I would be ok…the first thing I wanted to do was to just get out and live life. I wanted to go on vacations, meet up with old friends, have beers (and lots of them), and just get OUT. It was a great time for me, to finally feel ALIVE after 6 long months of NOT feeling alive.

During that time, I was pulled aside by some close friends and was told that I may be out of control. I was told that I am publicizing too much of my social life in public forums and that one would perceive that maybe I would end back up in an a bad emotional place if I continued on the path I was on. I wholeheartedly disagreed and went about my business. The angst that I felt towards my friends set me onto a path of rebellion, of trying to prove to everyone that I was “ok”, and I would say a hint of selfishness. As much it meant for me to be able to be there for people who were in the same position emotionally as I was once was, I still unknowingly was going through a time where I needed to know what I was going through at that current time. Months later, I finally figured it out. See, this is where one would say I was going thru the manic side of bi-polarism. Me, I say I was going thru the second half of the “crazy-eight”.

Tony Robbins, if you haven’t had the chance to hear him speak, is mind-blowing. His ability to talk about human emotion and the way we react to others in the ways we do is undeniable. I first watched this video I’m about to share with all of you in May of 2011, and it changed the way I feel about mental illness. Mental illness, I feel, is being clumped together in one big ball and people of varying symptoms and degrees of seriousness do not get the appropriate care that they need.

In this video, Tony Robbins discusses the emotions that one tends to fall into when they feel their life is out of control. On one end of the spectrum, we have emotions like sadness and depression, and the other we have emotions like frustration, anger, and rage. When we “regain” control of our lives and feel that with others that have importance in our lives, we feel emotions like acceptance and love. The imbalance of these emotions, or should I say, the way we react to these emotions could set us on a path of crazy eights. Fortunately, I only experienced one cycle of this last year, but looking back I may have been experiencing the crazy eights for my whole life.

Yes I do believe that bi-polarism is a real thing and in extreme cases needs to be treated with effective therapy and medication. However, I believe in most cases that effective cognitive behavior therapy is very effective and needs to be explored FIRST as the option. Please watch this video to learn more about the “crazy eights”. He begins to discuss this topic at the 34:30 mark of the video so watch that part first, but I strongly encourage you to watch the video as a whole at some point. Tony does a great job in finding the root causes not only with this womans issues with herself, but with her relationship with her husband and then how to make their marraige stronger.

Thanks for reading this post, enjoy your week 🙂


  1. Sharing your gifts forward is the best way to change the world.. one soul at a time! I am soooo proud of your intention! Well Done!!! Keep sharing the love and making a differnce! God Bless all of you!
    Namaste, Mary Hartmann

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